You don't have to hit a child to abuse them

This was written by member of Angels That Care in answer to what I wrote. Amber AlertS set wheels in motion



I know someone that tried to put out an Amber Alert on her 12 y/o daughter when in fact the 12 y/O was at the Grandparents house after being threatened and kicked out of the house by the mother the night before. Apparently the mother (MOM) was drunk, had blacked out and "forgot" where her child was. At this point Child Services were called and the other child that was 13 was also removed from the home.

This was an acquaintance I had met first moving here.....a neighbor of my friend and our kids went to school together. I watched this woman slowly deteriorate into drugs and alcohol. When she got caught driving drunk....she lost her license. My friend would call me every day telling me things about this woman and I would get so mad and tell her to call the police or report it. I called one time and they did go investigate but the complaint was not substantiated. However, the police and DCS kept a close eye.

One day...my daughter saw the 12 y/O and her mom in the principle's office. Passing in the hallway my daughter asked out of concern what was wrong and made a statement that she hoped her mother didn't drive. This led to many harassing phone calls from the mother saying my daughter was a liar and harassing her daughter at school.... which was not true; they were friends. One evening after taking my friends daughter home after one of my sons baseball games, this woman came out of her house so drunk screaming at me. I tried to talk to her but she insisted on calling me names and doing anything to goad me into getting mad. I told her she was drunk and to go in her house and go to bed........her daughters had come over to my friends house at this time. She started screaming at the top of her lungs that I was a fat b*tch and my daughter was nothing but a "nasty nigger half-breed piece of sh*t."

Please know that ALMOST all tact and moral integrity almost went out of the window.....I felt like a lioness at that very moment wanting to protect her cub....even though, THANK GOD my daughter she was talking about wasn't there at the time to hear those horrible words. I wanted to shred that woman to pieces! I kept my cool but she ran inside her house.....her mother had driven over at that point and I was literally yelling at her to stop enabling her daughter and to protect those kids! The police were called by MOM....I was crying to the officers that this woman had in fact been harassing me....she was a danger to herself, her kids and anyone else on the road. She frequently drove drunk and I was told she smoked crack. They told me it was hear-say but that they were familiar with her and were watching her.....

After that it wasn't a week when the kids were removed. The kids are thriving at their grandparents and I see them frequently as I take them to our church. MOM has been arrested for driving w/o a license...been in jail and has failed many urine tests. She for some reason has said she doesn't claim the youngest of her daughters but has weekly visits w/the oldest daughter.

It breaks my heart because I know that these kids have seen things they should never see.......many one-night stands and strange men in the house after a long night of partying by MOM , drugs, alcohol.....they were forced to make her drinks, clean up her puke and take care of her when she was incapcitated.

You don't have to hit a child to abuse them............

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