Wednesday, December 06, 2006

Info on bullies

Children that are bullies at school are more likely to have witnessed violence at home compared to children that did not see this aggressive behavior. Researchers from the University of Washington and Indiana University have completed one of the first of its kind study in the United States that examined the relationship of violent parents and the effects of the child becoming a bully at school.

The researchers also were able to group two different kinds of bullying. One kind of bullying is called physical aggression which includes hitting, pushing and any other outward expression of hostility. The second type of bullying is called relational aggression which includes teasing, being mean, and ostracizing peers.

Researchers collected data from an ongoing Seattle Social Development Project and the Intergenerational Projects. There were a total of 112 children from ages 6 to 13 years of age that the researchers studied for bullying.

There were 34 percent of the children in this group that had bullied another child, while 73 percent of the children said they were a victim to a bully in that last year. Out of the bully group, almost all of them, 97 percent, said they also were victims of a bully.

“Children learn from seeing what their primary caregivers do. They are very attuned and very observant about what goes on in a household,” said Dr. Nerissa Bauer, lead author of the study and a former UW pediatrician who is now an assistant professor of pediatrics at Indian and Riley Children’s Hospital.

“Parents are very powerful role models and children will mimic the behavior of parents, wanting to be like them. They may believe violence is OK and they can use it with peers. After all, they may think, ‘If Daddy can do this, perhaps I can hit this kid to get my way.’ When parents engage in violence, children may assume violence is the right way to do things,” she said.

“This study supports the idea that parental violence can lead to violence between children and their peers,” added Todd Herrenkohl, a UW associate professor of social work and co-author of the paper published in the current issue of the journal Pediatrics. “Children develop a mindset when they see how parents deal with problems. It is a script based on early observations in the home.”

This study also looked at causes for a child to bully. They believe that there is a correlation of domestic violence that causes children to bully at school. According to a federal study conducted in 2000, there are roughly 3.3 – 10 million children that have witnessed domestic violence at home on an annual basis.

These researchers concluded that girls were at a higher rate of bullying than boys. They accounted for 61 percent of the reported acts of aggression. Girls are also more likely to be the victims of a bully. Girls reported that they were bullied in 55 percent of the cases reported. Children that are witness to domestic violence are at risk for developing early childhood depression, sadness, and may become withdrawn. The researchers note that relational bullying; (name calling) is not related to domestic violence at home.

“Physicians and teachers should be sensitive that when children display behavior issues that the possibility of domestic violence in the family exists. Not all children exposed to violence will respond in the same way, but there are many indirect effects and problems that you can see, such as engaging in bullying, not being able to make friends, not eating or those with extended school absences. But not all bullies come from violent families,” Bauer said.

“We know that bullying leads to further antisocial behavior and this study shows how family violence leads to bullying. When intimate partner violence happens we can work with parents to show them how it can impact their children,” Herrenkohl said. “A key is early identification of this kind of problem, but it is never too late to intervene to break the cycle of violence.”

» by Nicole Wilson

Monday, December 04, 2006

White Ribbon Campaign Launches Blog


Friday, December 01, 2006
Question of the Week – Dec 1
On November 25th 1999, the United Nations officially declared the first International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. While this brought much needed international attention to the cause, it’s important to remember that many organizations, especially women’s organizations have already been working courageously to end this issue for decades.

Do you think societal attitudes towards violence against women have changed enough over the past couple of decades ? Are we making real progress towards eliminating violence against women? What attitudes still need to be changed/overcome?

http://ourfuturehasnoviolenceagainstwomen.blogspot.com/

Saturday, December 02, 2006

One Night As I Lay Cold in my Bed

One night as I lay cold in my bed,

I was fill with all my fears,

I turned and said a prayer to Mary.

As I always did when I felt my tears







"Please help me, Mother Mary,

For I don't know what to do.

So I'm telling you about my sadness,

And I'm handing them all to you."







Then as I lay there in my bed

I saw in my mind without fear

Our Lady?s Most Divine love,

As She looked at me from Heaven above







She looked at me with sadness in Her eyes

As she reached her hand to my Heart,

I handed her my sadness,

And She took them to her Sacred Heart,







I felt the sadness leave me,

As She held me close to Her Heart

I looked at Her in wonder

As She smiled at me with love









Then my Heavenly Mother Mary

Opened wide her mantle blue,

She wrapped it all around me,

For protection, so true,







And though no words were spoken,

I could see into Mary?s Divine eyes,

From then on and after I knew,

That Mary hold me in Her Heart





Copright@2006 Ann Thompson

Friday, December 01, 2006

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Monday, November 27, 2006

So many things to be thankful for

So many things to be thankful for

Before I walk out the door

Many, Many times I wondered how

Life could be so depressing



Then a child is born

And makes everything so clear

For it is for her I have sworn

To turn life around and have no more fear



So many things to be thankful for

Before I walk out the door

But this day

I will be thankful for her more

(c) Stephanie M. Bass




The Luminous Glow

The luminous glow
Of the beautiful sun
Over the water below
Now it has begun

The water is so reflective
Like a mirror
from your perspective
Only sometimes being clearer

The sun is so bright
So big on the horizon
Taking all the fright
And throwing it out one by one

The luminous glow
Of the beautiful sun
Over the water below
Oh, how it can never be outdone

(c) Stephanie M. Bass

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